Why Aren’t We Allowed to Move On?

The Huffington Post (among other outlets) have reported that for the second time in her post-porn life, porn star Rikki Anderson has lost a teaching job due to the fact that she had sex on video over 15 years ago.

Her story is not all that special, at least if Wikipedia is to be believed — she did a handful of movies back around 1997 in a period of her life between stints in the Army.  Seems like a common enough story — woman transitions out of the Army, finds it hard to adjust and  make ends meet, so she shakes her moneymaker as a dancer to pay some bills and takes the next step into appearing in some videos  (all 100% legal activities), then determines that this is not the life for her either, and re-enlists.  After her second tour with the Army, she uses the GI Bill to go to college, graduates in the top of her class and becomes certified as a teacher and finds gainful employment.

To me, it sounds a bit like a success story.

Porn helped her out when she needed it — not everyone knows what they want to be when they grow up, or perhaps they just can’t be what they want to be at the time they want to be it — so you do what you need to do to survive.  She didn’t cross the law, she went to where legal money could be made in a short period of time, then she moved on with her life, becoming a productive member of society.

So, I guess my question is why is this lady being tarred and feathered?

She did nothing illegal.

But I suppose that is different than saying she did nothing wrong.

Here at the IAFD, we get our fair share of emails from people who have moved on with their lives and aren’t excited about the prospect of their past choices appearing on the site, and we’re sensitive to that.  We struggle with it quite a bit, but we won’t remove the filmographies.

My favorite line in Airplane is  “They bought their tickets, they knew what they were getting into.  I say, let ’em crash!”

The cold, heartless logic of it (wrapped in absurdity) that makes me laugh, and I’ll quote  it often in real-life when someone needs to take responsibility for something they’ve done.  “I say, let ’em crash!

It’s easy to say, but much harder to practice since it’s pretty heartless, and we’re just not that heartless here.  At the end of the day, there are people on the other side of the screen with lives and families and futures and pasts and hopes and dreams — just as there are on the other side of our keyboards — and there seems that there needs to be some line drawn between a “career” porn performer and a “desperate for cash at a tough time in their life” porn performer for the purposes of running this site.

So, we don’t take the hard-line “whore knew this would happen” position — even tho we DO think that as soon as they take their clothes off people should expect this can and will happen and prepare themselves for it — we know that’s not always possible.  Life isn’t neat, and sometimes things must be done even if under other circumstances they wouldn’t be.

We have no hard and fast rules about it and we would really prefer not to be a revisionist historian.  It’s hard enough being a primary historian.  But, when someone appears in only a handful of out of print  movies 15-20 years ago and comes to us that far after the fact and asks us real nice to take their picture down, we usually do, because, in the end, there’s very little downside for us.  It depends on how many movies, how long ago, is the person of note, etc.

And I say this, knowing that with everything going on, we still have a vidcap of Rikki Anderson accompanying her biography / filmography.

But we’re dismayed that Rikki lost her job teaching — not once, but TWICE.

School officials were  quoted by the New York Daily News as saying: “We’re surprised, very surprised. At the same time we feel for her and her family. We do believe she has tried to move on with her life… Unfortunately, even though it happened 15 years ago, [the video] is still there.”

So, why the need to quit?  Can’t we turn this around as a lesson?  She’s a teacher, so can’t good come of it? “Hey kids, maybe posting pictures of you frenching that girl and then drinking shots off her boobs isn’t a good thing to post on Facebook…

People have sex.  Every kid in that classroom’s parent — guaranteed! – had sex at least once.  But instead of quoting George Michael’s “Sex is natural, sex is fun…” we say, sex is bad, and if you’re caught doing it, we’ll run you out of town; or at least make you feel like you need to run yourself out of town.

So, whenever I see a story like this in the news, I get sad.  Someone’s getting a raw deal for legal things they did a long time ago.  I’m not saying that knowing your teacher did porn and you can watch her getting DP’d over at HotMovies wouldn’t have the potential to be a disruptive force in class — at least in the short term, but I bet people would get over it.

Why we, as a society, afford some people the chance to fuck on film and be forgiven or praised for it, while condemning others is one of life’s great, sad mysteries.

To me, its all about forgiveness, and I don’t like when its withheld without justification.

I hope she, and the others who will inevitably suffer the same fate down the line, find it easier to survive with each successive episode.

2 thoughts on “Why Aren’t We Allowed to Move On?”

  1. Sorry. Regardless of how you slice it, your viewpoint is hypocritical. It is also, unfortunately, self defeating (for you).

    I use IAFD religiously as the definitive source for information on the subject of pornography. I thank you for that facility! The more you choose to edit or delete your existing content, the less reliable you will become.

    Right now, I am seeking information on the ABA release “Nurse my Cock”. There is one loop in which the male character looks like R.Bolla. I’m trying to confirm this and identify his partners. You have no information on this film at all, except the possibility of linking to Vendor Titles. I’ll eventually find what I’m looking for, unfortunately NOT from IAFD.

    I don’t expect you to carry every detail on every release. At the same time, I do expect you NOT to be self censoring. Leave that to others.

    Fitzz

    1. Thanks for your comment. Sometimes it feels we’re talking into a vacuum.

      We’re keenly aware of the conflict between our (really quite rare in practice) actions and our mission; and it’s a struggle we deal with on an ongoing basis. We appreciate how much people have come to rely on us, and we don’t want to do anything to jeopardize that reliability.

      Our mission is to compile information on MOVIES (after all, we’re the adult FILM database, not the adult PERFORMER database) and with that, we work hard to gather as much information about a movie as possible. Cast lists are the lifeblood of the site, and we don’t do anything to compromise those (barring some extenuating legal circumstances). If, to the best of our knowledge, a performer is in a movie, we will list it. That is our mission. Track the movies and the people who are in them. But the info we maintain on the people who are in them is a little more fluid.

      I wish we’re able to help you with “Nurse My Cock” but, as I am sure you’re finding out, finding data on old loops can be a challenge. I wish we had some sort of hotline we could pick up and get an answer for you, but we’d be doing the same research as you. Maybe having this comment up will bring an answer from someone who’s reading this…

      We’re fans of the Vintage Erotica Forum — http://www.vintage-erotica-forum.com/ — they may be able to shed some light on your quest.

      I hope you when you find your info, you’ll share it with us, so we can share it with everyone else.

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